007 Licensed to Dad

This is what being a Dad looks like.

It's Daniel Craig of James Bond fame out taking a walk with his daughter. Maybe Piers Morgan considers it #emasculatedBond, but this looks like stepping up and taking care of your kid. If he was out walking with a 45 lbs barbell plate strapped to his chest would that be more "manly?" Why?

My wife and I took our kids on lots of long family hikes through woods and parks. some of those hikes ended with me walking the last mile with one child sitting on my shoulders, their feet tucked under my shoulders, arms wrapped around my head, while carrying two other children in front of me, one in each arm, my fingers intertwined and locked together underneath them so I could get them all back to the car after their little legs wore out. Now that's a work out. I wish I had a papoose like that to carry them in.

When they were little, I would often take my kids to the park while my wife was working. Sometimes a well intentioned stranger would try to make conversation by asking, "Oh, are you babysitting?" "Nope", I'd reply, "These are mine." I wasn't babysitting, I was being a dad. That time passes quickly. Now my kids are grown and I'm in the "grand-dadding" stage. It's kind of the same, but a lot harder and it hurts more. But I still do it.

Multigen Family Hayride.

A recent study published in the journal of Family Relations, examined "the advice and regrets empty-nest parents have when reflecting on their experiences as parents." They found that the advice "conveyed the importance of (having) a healthy parent-child relationship" and regrets "were related to overemphasizing correction and negativity." The implication is that parents should spend less time with negativity and correcting their children, and more time building the relationship and "helping things go right."1

I would love to see more pictures of dads being dads, grand-dads being grand-dads, out spending time and having fun with their kids. Push them on a swing. Take a walk or a bike ride. Play a sport. Do some work in the yard. Heck, carry them around in a papoose if you want. Just spend time together doing stuff.

That's what dad's do. #007Dad

1 Chapman, Ashton and David Schramm. "Parenting Advice and Regrets of Empty-Nesters." Family Relations 67 (October 2018): 483-496 DOI:10.1111/fare.12337

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